1. Tell your kids about sex before someone else does or does something to them.
Open the door to conversation.
It has been our practice to tell our kids in first grade.
I took my oldest son to breakfast and I ask him, “Do you know what the word ‘reproduction’ means? He did – thanks to Wild Kratts.If your kid doesn’t know what the word ‘reproduction’ means it is one of the greatest things God has created.We can make furniture but it does not reproduce?Many things in God’s creation reproduce; people, animals, trees, flowers, etc...
There is nothing difficult, perverted or off color about that.
I also told him some words that he could hear when people reference sex.
I told him if he had any questions he could come talk to me. (open the door)
I told him if anyone touches him in his private area to come talk to me.
I told him that sex is not a public topic it is mainly a private one but it should never be secretive.
2. Teach your kids that sex in Scripture is a positive thing.
There is no Scripture that condemns the act of sex when it is kept within the proper boundary of marriage.Many kids carry guilt because they have an interest in sex.We have made it a taboo topic, something secretive and something that should not be talked about.Unfortunately things that are not talked about, kids will find a way to discover them and it may not be through the means you desire. The desire for intimacy is in each of us and it is powerful glue that is meant to cement couples together emotionally, physically and spiritually.
3. Sexuality shows whether you have a proper view of God.
How do you build a man like Joseph how goes into a foreign country with no accountability and is hit on by the most beautiful and powerful lady in Egypt and still comes out victorious.It was a powerful temptation, it was a prolonged temptation and it was a private temptation (Dr. David Jeremiah) and yet he emerged victorious.
Abraham is known as the man of surrender. One of the main things he surrendered to God was his centeredness through circumcision (Dr. Mike Avery).
Many people think they can have secretive sexual relationships outside the boundaries of marriage but God is always watching and there will always be consequences. Develop that mind set of practicing the presence of God.
4. Christianity’s biggest battle over the last thirty years was Evolution. Our biggest battle over the next thirty years is human sexuality.
Human sexuality is at the vary root of the institution for the family.It is the basis of our identity male and female.Human sexuality is the basis of order in Biblical philosophy.
When you have liberal doctors tell you that is your baby’s gender is a male or female but it will tell you its sexuality preference when they get older – we have a problem.
5. Go to the place where your child is spending their time.
I have been a youth camp president for 15 years and almost yearly I have a conversation with young people concerning their cell phones and online viewings. Parents are handing their kids the very thing that will later kill their reputation, marriage and ultimately their souls. Do not feel that your child has to have everything they ask for.
Check their journals, what’s going on at their friend’s house, what is on their texts, emails, what videos are they watching, Youtube history, etc…
Accountability is not a hand off approach. Proper accountability is when you check and everything is above board. You will save your child from serious mistakes.
6. By not taking the above mentioned steps you are opening the door to curiosity that your child will eventually have a hard time closing on their own.
7. Your child is the most valuable thing you own.
Before you buy a home or car you are evaluated, interviewed and researched.Start interviewing your child’s dates. Keep everything above board. It will make for deeper and stronger relationships.
8. Talk to your kids about the possible consequences of sex outside marriage:
Distrust, disease, children, broken family ties, abortion, dropping out of school early, social shame, raising a child on your own, child support etc..
9. Tell your child what to look for in a spouse:
Girl: Picture a garden with high walls all around it. The lady that is tending to that garden, is she busy about her garden? Allowing the fragrances to waft over the wall in order to catch her passerby’s? Or is she hanging out at the door asking unwanted people to come in? Yet inside the garden there is nothing of value there?
Boy: Is he a man that is concerned about protecting purity or pursuing it? Is he someone who can provide? Is he someone who is honest? What is his history? Who are his friends? How does he handle money?
10. Teach them the difference between feelings and values.
Written By: Scott Blackmon