Your kids have never seen you:
1. Surrender your will.
Even Christ had to pray, "Not my will but Thine be done." In one prayer Christ prays that the will of God be
done on earth the same as it is in Heaven. In Gods economy degrees, positions and money do not matter. As
humans it is hard to surrender personal preferences to a higher good but if we do there is great satisfaction.
2. Serve others.
They have seen you serve yourself. One of my students today told me that she overheard her dad say the
reason he divorced her mom was because he wanted a truck (weak and selfish I know).
Learning to serve your spouse, your fellow workers, etc.. is being like Christ. One man said let your servant
towel be bigger than your ego. My greatest moments have been seeing my father and father-in-law do the
dishes after big meals around the house.
3. Sacrifice for higher good.
Right now I could walk into a job that pays $60,000 to $135,000. I work at a logistics company part time and
they are begging me to do so. Unfortunately for them I have already found my calling.
Surveys from Harvard and Yale tell us that even after a prestigious degree, a nice home, family and salary
many are still looking for meaning in life.
I have heard of many who have given up great jobs or status for a calling in ministry and they have found great
4. Say you are sorry.
As parents there are so many things that are thrown at us. Your kids need to see you say, "I am sorry" - either
to them, your spouse or someone they may offend in public or at church. The road of humility and forgiveness
is so tough yet so attractive to people.
5. Study Scripture.
Our kids need to see us live, study and exemplify Scripture. We should search for the mind of Christ, the Will
of God and the power of the Holy Spirit. Everything we do should please the Trinity.
6. Seek God and expect an answer to prayer.
One of the greatest things you can do is tell your children that there is a need that is beyond your means and
that you are expecting God to answer. When He does (and He will) bring your kids back to the place and tell
them - this is how God delights in answering the prayers of His children.
7. Strive to follow the principles of Scripture.
The way you do anything is the way you do everything. If you are dishonest or honest, if you are worker or
lazy, if you have faith or fear, etc..
8. Be satisfied in life.
Ownership does not equal happiness. You have to reach a place of contentment in your relationship with
Christ. As a sinner I strived to obtain. As a Christian we can rest knowing that the Good Shepherd will lead us
beside still waters because He knows how fearful we are.
9. Suffer well.
Everyone goes through hard times. The question is how do we handle it?
10. They see where you spend your time.
What is important to you? That is where you will spend your time. That is your god or is it your God?
11. Speak about what you believe.
If you actually believe something it will come out of your mouth.
Your kids are watching how you live your life.
As parents you are the greatest influence on your kids.